I denied my grief

[Pete Rodda]

My mom passed back in 2006.  I went through the anger, and the blaming myself. But I've been denying my grief, and it's taken a hard toll on my family. My wife finally was able to drag my grief out of me this week, and I'm realizing that in the 9 years, I've never grieved over the loss of my mom. Now  this is all new to me, and I'm not sure what to do. Am hoping these rooms might be able to help some.

[Judy Davidson]

Hi Pete

Welcome to Grief Hope Network and thank you for sharing your story and your feelings.  I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother 9 years ago.  You have made a BIG first step in reaching out to others who know how you feel.  Grief always waits, so it's never too late to start the process of dealing and healing.   

All members here have empathy for what you are going through.  I'm recovering from the loss of my mother in February.   My husband passed away in 2004 and I started this site to help others a few years ago.  Please reach out to other members through the Network, Member Blogs and Forum Chats.  The chat room tends to have more people in it at night.  The Home Page has some good Blog Posts too.  I pray the resources here provide Help for Today & Hope for Tomorrow.  You take good care of yourself.  BIG hug!    

God bless,

Judy

Founding member

[Jenny Robinson]

Pete,

      Grieving is a hard process in which many have to endure. Though your mother passed 9 years ago, it still effects you even today, the difference is now you can grieve. I lost my mother only 10 months ago, and im still grieving, but since being on here i have felt better.  But this isn't about me, it's about you,and you need to be able find a way to grieve. Don't be afraid to reach out to others.  

     Don't be afraid to reach out for help. I'm sorry for your loss, and I understand your pain. I try to be on as much as possible if you wish to talk. Life has a way of taking people you love away and giving you friends to help you through the pain. 

    Dont be afraid to grieve in person, and asking for help. You are allowed to do so, you lost someone important even if it was 9 years ago. You lost your mother, and nothing can change that, but we can at least help you through the pain. <3

  Hugs Pete. I'll send luck and healing your way dear. <3