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I lost my dad and best friend 4 months ago I'm
A daddy's girl and his only child. It's been a nightmare for me and feels not real. I'm trying to stay strong for my mom and kids but my parter whom I need the most right now hasn't been there for me I'm alone he walks the other direction when he sees me cry. In my house hold he acts as if nothing has happened and when I'm sad or depressed he's mad cause he thinks I'm in a bad mood or something instead of asking how I'm doing. My question is I've been there for my mom
And kids but I have no shoulder to cry on. How do I cope by myself ? How do I help myself get better? Thank you for listening any advise is well appreciated!!

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I think your partner doesnt know what to tell you and feels there is nothing  he could say or do to make things better for you. Some people dont know how deal with loss of their family or friends,  they close up. They feel that by not saying anything or turning the other way is best. And it may be best for them not necesarrly for you. But dont blame him to much its his way of dealing with your fathers loss. Im sure your father dependent on you being the shoulder to cry on being the strong one. Hold on to his love his the shoulder you being needing. 

My dad just died this week and I'm feeling lost myself. I miss his voice & he was the only one who made me feel better after a talk.
I agree with the comment above, people don't know how to respond to grief. Maybe he wants to give u space but you just need him there. Just be open and communicate. Say I need a shoulder to cry on, you don't need to tell me anything just validate me and say this sucks, I'm here for you. But he may have been raised not to show feelings of grief. It's a normal process, can't repress it.
I still miss my dad everyday. I have a husband who also doesn't quite know what to say to me. I do think that sometimes people don't know what to say. But grief is a different process for everyone.
My husband has slowly opened up and talked to me about both of our feelings of loss over my dad. He understands now how intense mine can be. I was a daddy's girl also. It felt almost like losing a limb when he passed. Things will slowly get better. You never stop missing him, but you just handle it better.
I've had the same experience. I lost my Daddy in January and I am absolutely lost. I don't speak about my feelings often but when I do my partner shrugs off or ignores what I'm saying due to the strain in his father/son relationship. He struggles with addiction and that always seems to be the main focus. I wish that I had the support as well.

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