Missing Brandon....

[Wendi Greene]

Hi everyone. My name is Wendi and about two months ago I lost my friend Brandon to suicide. He was 35. I've been having a hard time dealing with this. I have had trouble sleeping and lost my appetite. I have like no energy and I have been seeing a therapist. I really have things I need to be doing  but I can't get motivated. I was wondering if anyone has been feeling way and has any advice on how to get back to normal. Thanks for listening....

Wendi 

Friend of Brandon

[Wendi Greene]

Connie,

I am so sorry to hear about your son. I can't imagine how you must feel. I lost my friend Brandon on August 30th and it's 

been so hard for me. I think I was in shock for the first week. Now I'm functioning but I still have hard days. There are so many things that I miss about Brandon but the one thing I really miss is his blue eyes. I loved staring into them....

I can relate to how you said it's hard to feel natural. Some days I want to call him and remember

that he's gone.  Brandon was cremated so I had to find a place that I felt I could go and talk to him. He loved to hunt and fish so I went into the woods by my house and made a memorial site. I hung a cross that had a nice prayer on it in a tree so now I have a private spot to go talk to him. I have been seeing a therapist and taking anti-depressants to help me feel better. I find that talking about Brandon really does help me feel better.

I also have been keeping a journal so that I can get all my feelings out. I like poetry so I wrote a poem for Brandon. This has been the hardest thing I've ever dealt with but it does get easier as time passes. There is a great site that you can visit to make a memorial to your son for free. It is muchloved.com. It's a place where you can share stories, photo's and videos of your son. Friends and family can also visit and add their thoughts. There is also a song by Rascall Flatts called Why? that Brandon loved. It's a great song for anyone who is a suicide survivor. They played it at his memorial and it touched everyone. When your ready I would like to hear about your son and what happened to him. If you ever need to talk just send me a message. I want you to know that you will get through this and you are not alone....

Sincerely,

Wendi 

Friend of Brandon

P.S. Here's a pic of Brandon hope you like it!

Connie embry said:

I just lost my son to suicide....My world is shattered.

I just ordered his grave stone today. I had to go shopping afterwards, for dog food and my daughter and I were talking and at the same time, we both slumped our shoulders.

For a minute we forgot, It is so unnatural for us to be normal.

[Wendi Greene]

Connie,

Glad you liked Brandon's pic. It's nice that you were able to have your son's ashes put in the cemetery. I think that Brandon's mom and brother put his ashes next to where his dad is buried. I'm not sure exactly where the cemetery is 

so that's why I wanted a place that I could go when I want to talk to him. If you find it difficult to pass the place where he is buried maybe you could find an alternate route. The first week or so is the hardest to get through because you have 

so many plans to take care of. After the first month you will find that it does get easier. 

. Another site that you might want to visit is POS/FFOS. It is a site for parents and friends of someone who committed suicide to share their stories and really does help the grieving process. I meet some really 

awesome people who helped me get through the first few months. They have a retreat twice a year in the fall and the spring for a weekend. People travel from all over to Tennessee to visit a suicide wall and they have different activities to 

help people. I missed the one in the fall but hope to go in the spring. If you need anything just let me know. I think that

by reaching out to others is the only way to really begin the healing process. You should also consider therapy and medication if you feel like you can't function. I have been going to see a therapist for about two months and it has really helped me understand my emotions and how I can get back to living my life. If you ever need to talk just send me an e-mail. Talk to you soon.

Sincerely,

Wendi

Friend of Brandon

Connie embry said:

He is gorgeous... I had Kyle cremated as well. We have a plat at the cemetary but have not placed him yet.

He was always fishing off the bank by my house so we are going to split the ashes his Dad will visit there and occasionally I will go down there too.

The plot is right off the street I will pass all the time. Not sure how good that will be but that spot was available so I took it.

If you'd like to talk more privately message me here... Maybe we can help eachother... :/

[Wendi Greene]

Connie,

I'm just checking in to see how your doing. I know how hard it is the first few weeks. I think after the shock wears off then you start to go through the stages of grief. I'm doing better but this past week has been hard. I miss my friend Brandon every day and wish I could talk to him one last time. His birthday is the 23rd of December and he would have been 36.

If you need to talk just send me a message. Hope to talk to you soon....

Hugs,

Wendi

Friend of Brandon

Wendi Greene said:

Connie,

Glad you liked Brandon's pic. It's nice that you were able to have your son's ashes put in the cemetery. I think that Brandon's mom and brother put his ashes next to where his dad is buried. I'm not sure exactly where the cemetery is 

so that's why I wanted a place that I could go when I want to talk to him. If you find it difficult to pass the place where he is buried maybe you could find an alternate route. The first week or so is the hardest to get through because you have 

so many plans to take care of. After the first month you will find that it does get easier. 

. Another site that you might want to visit is POS/FFOS. It is a site for parents and friends of someone who committed suicide to share their stories and really does help the grieving process. I meet some really 

awesome people who helped me get through the first few months. They have a retreat twice a year in the fall and the spring for a weekend. People travel from all over to Tennessee to visit a suicide wall and they have different activities to 

help people. I missed the one in the fall but hope to go in the spring. If you need anything just let me know. I think that

by reaching out to others is the only way to really begin the healing process. You should also consider therapy and medication if you feel like you can't function. I have been going to see a therapist for about two months and it has really helped me understand my emotions and how I can get back to living my life. If you ever need to talk just send me an e-mail. Talk to you soon.

Sincerely,

Wendi

Friend of Brandon

Connie embry said:

He is gorgeous... I had Kyle cremated as well. We have a plat at the cemetary but have not placed him yet.

He was always fishing off the bank by my house so we are going to split the ashes his Dad will visit there and occasionally I will go down there too.

The plot is right off the street I will pass all the time. Not sure how good that will be but that spot was available so I took it.

If you'd like to talk more privately message me here... Maybe we can help eachother... :/