Help for today & Hope for tomorrow

November 26 2017. He had a brain bleed & was only 36. We were less than a month away from celebrating our 1 year anniversary. Now, of course, everything is changing. The worst part is all the emotions. I feel so much guilt about not being able to notice signs that something may have been happening to him in the days prior. I have guilt that I wasn’t home with him when he collapsed on the floor. He was a teacher & it was a weekend so he was due to be tutoring but I later found out he texted the family he tutored for that he wasn’t feeling well. 

It keeps running through my mind if I had been there, would things have been different? My family was in town for thanksgiving so I went to breakfast with them. He wasn’t able to go because he needed to get ready for tutoring & school on Monday.

What do you do with the guilt? I also am angry that this happened when everything was going so well for us & we were going to start our family.

What do you do with the anger? 

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My mom passed away the day after xmas, only a short month ago.  She was 83 and frail and I struggle with the guilt that you're talking about.  I wish there something that we could have done for her.  My sisters and I believe she was done with life and wanted to go be with my dad in heaven but I have a hard time living with the guilt of not being able to help her so I understand how you feel.   

Hi Aimee , so sorry for your loss , I can not imagine your pain and anger. But sometime unforeseen things could happen at any time in our life , and you should not blame yourself for it . Am sure If you would of been
And known the situation you would of been there right away . Am sure your husband would not want you to blame yourself he loved so much . Sometimes horrible things happen in our life and we may feel so bad , but if we find our why these things happen we might have a better understanding . Please feel free to email me if you need to talk to someone , you are not alone . So sorry again for your loss .


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