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Lesley Schoenhofer
  • 32, Female
  • Wichita, KS
  • United States
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Please talk with me I’m a mess

Started this discussion. Last reply by RAY WHITAKER Aug 30. 13 Replies

I lost my fiancé less than a week ago to cancer & I can barley stand this pain. I’ll get through it but it hurts so badly

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RAY WHITAKER replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
"When I lost my parents, it was really tough.  I was very close to both of them.  My thoughts are with you.  Here is a poem I wrote for you, perhaps it will be supportive for you. GOT A FEW PEOPLE JUST NEED TO TALK…"
Aug 30
Peggy replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
"I do feel your pain. My husband killed my boy. Its been a year since 8-14-2017 I still can not stop crying. Moaring is not easy."
Aug 14
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Naomi Jones replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
""Please know that you have my deepest sympathy on the loss of your husband. I know that there is little I can say to console you but please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this tragic time." Lesley I will…"
Jul 24
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Lesley Schoenhofer replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
""Hey thank you Al,  Sorry I missed replying to your message I really appreciate you taking the time to write me. I am sorry for your loss too :(   I would like to talk.. anytime!                                                                       …"
Jul 17
Lesley Schoenhofer replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
""Hey thank you Al,  Sorry I missed replying to your message I really appreciate you taking the time to write me. I am sorry for your loss too :( ""
Jul 17
Lesley Schoenhofer left a comment for Al Fuhandomega
"Hey thank you Al,  Sorry I missed replying to your message I really appreciate you taking the time to write me. I am sorry for your loss too :( "
Jul 17
Lesley Schoenhofer left a comment for Tracie
"im so sorry for your loss "
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Lesley Schoenhofer left a comment for Lolly
"Thanks it really is... and I honestly sometimes feel like no one around me gets it because im 32, and none of my friends in my age group knows what this is like they sympathize of course but they just dont get it and dont know what to say. "
Jul 17
Lesley Schoenhofer left a comment for Lesley Schoenhofer
"Beverly, Thank you I appreciate it and im always up for talking.  it feels like things are slowly getting easier but as im nearing the 6 month anniversary and I just crashed emotionally again. I cant seem to stop crying I want to talk to people…"
Jul 17
Lesley Schoenhofer left a comment for Lesley Schoenhofer
"Naomi, I am so sorry to hear about your husband.  I completely get that I feel the same way like I died when he did... everyday just feels like a struggle just getting out of bed is difficult.  It's almost been 6 months and I still…"
Jul 17

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I lost my fiance Doug,( who was 33) to stage 4 Testicular Cancer. We tried everything for the past four and a half years to help him beat this cancer but he had caught it late and by then it had spread everywhere to his( Lungs, Liver and his Brain) He died on January 25th, 2018. It's almost been 6 months and it has been the most difficult 6 months of my life, I would love to talk to you and swap stories if you have the time and any advice would be wonderful. Thank you!

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At 7:52pm on May 30, 2018, Lolly said…
Loss is so hard so many stages. Feel like know one really gets it
At 9:43am on July 16, 2018, Beverly McLeod said…

Hi Lesley, you are so right about the different stages. After my husband's death, I felt as if I had died with him. A part of me went with him.  Everything changed, even the way I sleep, eat, cook and everything else.  Sometimes  I get so angry and just scream at the top of my lungs.  It is a really painful thing to go through. I am trying to keep my faith in God to help me through this. Grief does have so many stages. I will chat with you if you need to talk.

At 1:25pm on July 17, 2018, Naomi Jones said…

Hi Lesley I also felt this way when my husband died. A lot of people was saying that I died with him and at first I thought they were lying but after a couple of months I realized that I did. Lesley it is not easy losing a husband and I am praying for you. After getting the help that I needed I started helping other widows, and people who have lost people in their lives. I am here for you. Take care. 

At 6:01pm on July 17, 2018, Lesley Schoenhofer said…

Naomi, I am so sorry to hear about your husband.  I completely get that I feel the same way like I died when he did... everyday just feels like a struggle just getting out of bed is difficult.  It's almost been 6 months and I still haven't gone back to school and im so close to graduating!   or gotten another job ( which I lost while I was taking care of him) I want to get my life going but its a constant struggle. Thank you so much for talking with me.. what did you do after you lost your husband?  how did you get your life going again? 

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