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Lesley Schoenhofer
  • 32, Female
  • Wichita, KS
  • United States
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Please talk with me I’m a mess

Started this discussion. Last reply by RAY WHITAKER on Sunday. 19 Replies

I lost my fiancé less than a week ago to cancer & I can barley stand this pain. I’ll get through it but it hurts so badly

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RAY WHITAKER replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
"The sorrow is encompassing of our perspective.  A realtime Shakesperian tragedy.  My sympathies for your loss.    Perhaps this piece will be a bit of solace.   THE LISTENER When there has no value to the speaking just…"
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Paul Haney replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
"So sad."
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"Hi Lesley, I will talk with you anytime you would like or need a friend. I know the emptiness and a loneness you are feeling. I know the uncertainy you are feeling. I know it is hard to even think moment to moment. I  can feel the emptiness you…"
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RAY WHITAKER replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
"Lesley- you ware welcome.  I write a lot.  Missing those i have lost tonight..."
Mar 4
Lesley Schoenhofer replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
"Thanks Naomi, just talking is enough.  :) "
Mar 4
Lesley Schoenhofer replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
"Thank you Ray I really appreciate it.  Love that poem! "
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Lesley Schoenhofer replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
"Thank you Ray, I really appreciate it. :) "
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Lesley Schoenhofer replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
" Hi Peggy,   Thank you for replying,  has it gotten any easier after a year? I feel like my grief sometimes gets in the way of my daily routine still even after a year. Do you have any advice on how to deal with it easier? …"
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RAY WHITAKER replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
"When I lost my parents, it was really tough.  I was very close to both of them.  My thoughts are with you.  Here is a poem I wrote for you, perhaps it will be supportive for you. GOT A FEW PEOPLE JUST NEED TO TALK…"
Aug 30, 2018
Peggy replied to Lesley Schoenhofer's discussion Please talk with me I’m a mess
"I do feel your pain. My husband killed my boy. Its been a year since 8-14-2017 I still can not stop crying. Moaring is not easy."
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I lost my fiance Doug,( who was 33) to stage 4 Testicular Cancer. We tried everything for the past four and a half years to help him beat this cancer but he had caught it late and by then it had spread everywhere to his( Lungs, Liver and his Brain) He died on January 25th, 2018. It's almost been 6 months and it has been the most difficult 6 months of my life, I would love to talk to you and swap stories if you have the time and any advice would be wonderful. Thank you!

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At 7:52pm on May 30, 2018, Lolly said…
Loss is so hard so many stages. Feel like know one really gets it
At 9:43am on July 16, 2018, Beverly McLeod said…

Hi Lesley, you are so right about the different stages. After my husband's death, I felt as if I had died with him. A part of me went with him.  Everything changed, even the way I sleep, eat, cook and everything else.  Sometimes  I get so angry and just scream at the top of my lungs.  It is a really painful thing to go through. I am trying to keep my faith in God to help me through this. Grief does have so many stages. I will chat with you if you need to talk.

At 1:25pm on July 17, 2018, Naomi Jones said…

Hi Lesley I also felt this way when my husband died. A lot of people was saying that I died with him and at first I thought they were lying but after a couple of months I realized that I did. Lesley it is not easy losing a husband and I am praying for you. After getting the help that I needed I started helping other widows, and people who have lost people in their lives. I am here for you. Take care. 

At 6:01pm on July 17, 2018, Lesley Schoenhofer said…

Naomi, I am so sorry to hear about your husband.  I completely get that I feel the same way like I died when he did... everyday just feels like a struggle just getting out of bed is difficult.  It's almost been 6 months and I still haven't gone back to school and im so close to graduating!   or gotten another job ( which I lost while I was taking care of him) I want to get my life going but its a constant struggle. Thank you so much for talking with me.. what did you do after you lost your husband?  how did you get your life going again? 

At 6:55am on March 6, 2019, Regina Diana Reed said…

Hi Lesley, I will talk with you anytime you would like or need a friend. I know the emptiness and a loneness you are feeling. I know the uncertainy you are feeling. I know it is hard to even think moment to moment. I  can feel the emptiness you are feeling as I have walked in your shoes. I know how it feels to reach out and want to just touch  that person just one more time. Just know you are not alone,and we are all here because we are searching for the same things you are too. I hope we can help you feel a little better and not feel so alone or lost. take care and keep moving forward, may we all heal together. take care . a friend, diane.

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