Hello. My name is Lee Coleman. I lost my wife just recently and you wrote back to me about your losses. I am so sorry. I cannot imagine. We never had kids. People say they understand your loss, but most do not. I wish I had positive words for you, but I cannot imagine. I lost my Nancy, we had no kids, I actually had to put down our last of the 2 beagles just a month after her death. Seems silly telling you this, dogs are not kids. Now sit in an empty house, slowing going insane. l cant imagine how you function. You said to write to you if I needed someone to talk to. You cannot carry all this burden on yourself. If you need someone to talk with, please let me know. I am here for you. 

Lee

I wish I could help you. I can’t imagine what you are going thru. I’d pray for you, but for now, me and God are not on speaking terms. Losing my wife is slowly turning me insane. An empty house, just me. I don’t think I would have made it if I lost both my spouse and child. As I said, we did not have children, just me and my wife, so I just can’t imagine it. If I could sit beside you, give you a hug, and be there for you I would. For me, every day is worse, not better. There are no good days, just days I don’t get as emotional as most. You are a wonderful person for the amount of people you have spoken with on this site. Not sure how you do it. To share your pain and hurt and to try to help others is wonderful, yet also must be so tough. I feel blessed to know you. As I go into another empty night, I will think of you. I feel your pain and sorrow but cannot imagine the intensity of it at this tough time. Please keep up with your empathy and compassion for others because I am going to need you in the coming days and the future. Thanks for being there for us, and understand I am there for you. Thanks Gina.

Regina,

We have never met. We do not know each other than this site. My dear Nancy went into the  ER late this day, went into life support early the 23rd, passed the 24th. 2 months. I cannot image your loss, not only of your husband, but also your son. I sit in this house alone, going insane. I'm not sure I can do it. I have no family on my side. I speak with her mom every week, because that is what she did. Its a tough call for both of us. I sit tonight in tears. Cannot believe she is gone. I do not know how I go forward. How do you do it? 

Thank you for being there for me. I actually think about you during the work day. I wish we were neighbors, we could hug in tough times. Be good Regina. I will go through the next couple of days knowing I can always count on you, knowing what you are also going thru. I will need your support. Thank you Regina. 

thank you Gina it means a lot I'm looking forward to healing here.

I received your email today Thank you!, My husband passed last week after a long battle with Cancer. I read what you went through and I can't imagine the loss of a child. Thank God I am now living with my Daughter & her husband. My children have been a blessing to me. They have taken care of everything! I could not have done it without them. Please remember I am here to help/talk to you. Take care

I do not understand this site. I cannot find some of our letters, cant find the email thread, and seems some of our letters are missing. My email address is lcoleman.ny@gmail.com. Would it be ok if we emailed each other. I look back to read some of the wonderful things you said and cannot find them. They are in My page, your page, messages, etc. If you are not comfortable with this I totally understand. If mine and Nancy situation was different, I most likely would tell her to not send out her email address. But it is us. You said "If I get pesky, let me know". If you feel safer going thru the site, I totally understand. Its just some nights I like to read our corrospondence and I guess I am not smart enough to fiqure out how to get it on one page and just read. 

Be good. Either way, I will write you tonight and especially tomorrow.

Lee

Hi Regina:  I received your message but I'm very new at this and not sure how it works the site I mean.  I hope I'm responding in the right area.  Thank you for your message.  Although my husband past just a month ago I want to meet people that are in my same situation so I don't feel so lonely.  I have a 5 year old daughter that I have to care for and even though we have friends and she has some friends those people don't seem to understand what it is like to lose your husband and I feel like I'm a burden to them or the 3rd wheel.  I have no choice but to arrange play dates and go out because of my daughter.  If it wasn't for her I would just stay home and rot I guess.  But I like and I enjoy seeing her play and have fun instead of crying over her daddy that use to do so much with and for her.  This is where I'm aching the most.  It would be nice to meet people in my situation and while the kids play I can also have a friend to talk to but his is still all very new and raw.  

Good morning gina.  My daughter's name was Vicki and she was 40 when she passed away.  Her daughters are 8 and 10. You can call me Jo.  I added the 2 behind it just because there is a member from United Kingdom who is Jo.  I don't know if she ever posts.  I did it just in case.  My daughter was diagnosed with triple negative inflammatory breast cancer in Aug of 2013.  The triple negative is the incurable part.  There are no receptors to absorb any chemos or meds.  No estrogen or progesterone receptors an no Herceptin receptor.  The drs told her that from the start.  But you know how you just always hope.  In fact at one point, after a trial of Keytruda, her cancer developed a herceptiin (her2) receptor and she was told that now there was hope.  But it came too late.  That seemed to be the story right along.  Too little, too late.  Twice, she was given treatments for tumors in her brain and it was also in her lung.  She became paralyzed in her legs the Nov before she died.  That was due to the cancer cells forming a cluster inside of her spinal cord.  Most of them down in the lumbar area.  Just three weeks before she died she was told the neuro-oncologist could possibly shoot some medication into her spine to kill the cells in there.  Then all of a sudden, they said there is no more they can do.  She was being treated at that time at Northwestern in Chicago.  I have lost all faith in the medical oncology field.  That is pretty much the whole story.  Yes, you can send a friend request and you can share whatever you feel like sharing.  I do care.  Thank you for being willing to listen.  The worst thing for me is my anger.  And I don't even know where to direct it.