MOM

[Kim Verbeek]

I lost my Mom Dec 2013...it seems like it is getting  harder instead of easier to handle the loss...On top of everything my Dad started dating 5 months latter...and now this women he has only met 3 months ago moved in. He told me he was looking for someone just to talk to and friendship. He said no one will be moving in. Now this women has moved in and now is trying to take over moms place...I do not need a new mom....My brother feels the same way..I feel like on top of losing my mom ..now i am losing my Dad...he is never here anymore to talk to alone he is never there to hang out with when the lost feels heavy....I am not sure if I am being selfish but i feel lost.

Kim

 

[Judy Davidson]

Hi Kim,

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Thank you for sharing your feelings.  Communication is the first step toward recovering from the grief process.  As hard as it is to accept, men typically don't do well with being alone.  I've heard of numerous stories of men being in new relationships shortly after their wife has died.  Their way of dealing with grief is to find another woman so they don't have to be alone.  

Your whole family is still going through a lot of change after the loss of your mother.  I don't think you're losing your dad; it's just his way of dealing with the grief.  I'm sure it would be helpful to everyone if you could share your feelings with him.  Try being patient and hang in there ... I know it is hard ...

I pray this site provides Help for Today & Hope for Tomorrow,

Judy

Founding member

   

[Kim Verbeek]

Thanks Judy...trying to get everyone together for coffee.

[Lulu]

Hi Kim

sorry to hear about your loss. moms always make our day and its hard to live with out them. I lost a wonderful man i was dating in December of last year as well and I know it seems like a long time to grieve it feels like yesterday. Time may heal the wounds but not the heart. and i know you miss your mom like crazy, must take it  day by day. Men do grieve differently and most cant handle the loneliness it doesn't mean he doesn't miss your mom I hope the coffee date work outs and  you could resolve what you are feeling. Take care and God bless you.

Lulu

[Kim Verbeek]

Thanks Lulu

My Mom was always the glue tht held things together ...the peace keeper of the family...Now it has seems to become my job...My Dad and brother are not seeing eye to eye ...I am tring to make sure that they do not lose each other. But both of them can be so stubborn. I am hoping to get them together to talk but they both just want to walk away.

Kim

[Kim Verbeek]

Now he has ask her to marry him...omg this is so hard ...trying to be happy for him but missing my mom at the same time..I feel like i am losing my mind at times. I feel so alone ....

[Hillary b]

I lost my mom too and I feel the pain every day