Lost

[Ted Scherff]

I don't know what to say. The grief is terrible. I lost my soul mate and the love of my life 8 days ago. I am lost in sadness and barely able to function. I am alone nearly all the time. I just can not believe this has happened. Words do not work, I think of joining her every day, but she would not want me to that way. 

I am sorry for sounding so pitiful. 

Ted

[Ted Scherff]

Janet Lea Dupnt, I am touched by and grateful for your reply. I do hope we are able to communiccate with each other again soon. I am being forced out of my wife and my home for the next 10 days by the landlord, and then permenantly later, in Dec. I will try to have internet access if possible and check this site occassionally. Ted

[Janet Lea Dupont]

I'm sorry you are having to leave your home. I fortunately have a cabin where one of my sons live. i am living here temporarily until i find my way out of this deep valley. i could not stay in the apartment we shared. good luck to you and hopefully we will see sunshine again and will be able to smile again. 

[Ronald Gwyn]

im so very sorry i know its beyound words to tell others what you are feeling & the depth of your pain & suffering! I wish i had words to say to you that would bring you some comfort, i just lost my best friend & companion & i feel like the sun doent shine anymore, i cant sleep for memorys that haunt me, If you have a closre friend how is willing to listen contact them & empty some the grief out of you,we cant handle it all botteled up inside us,its like drowing, im here daily if you want to chat  Ted, Be good for me too to chat   your friend in great sorrow  Ronnie Gwyn in hayes, Va.

[heidi bermender]

HI RONALD  I TOO LOST THE LOVE OF MY LIFE MY WORLD MY SOULMATE MY BESTFRIEND HUSBAND HE WAS MY ENTIRE WORLD  HE PASSED AWAY OVER TWO YEARS AGO  AT HOME FROM ESPHAGAS CANCER HE BECAME BEDRIDDEN AND I TOOK CARE OF HIM  WE SHARED THE SAME HEARTBEAT  WE WERE MAGICAL TOGETHER  I LAYED IN BED WITH HIM HUGGING HIM AND TELLING HIM HO DEEPLY I LOVE HIM AND HOLDING IN MY ARMNS AND TAHNKING HIM FOR EVERTHING HE DID  FOR ME  HE ALWAYS WROTE ME POETRY AND OVER 300 CARDS WE HELD HAND EVERDAY 

[Ronald Gwyn]

Ted how are you doing today? Im not sure you or anyone here gets the messages i send them! I sure hope it a little easier today to deal  with the great lonelyness & pain, I have times too that seem i cant bear it & i too dont want to be here! But i find strengt & comfort knowing that  God has a plan for our lives & its not a lifetime of grief & emptyness! If you want to chat some or by phone i sure can & will,  Having friends means every thing in the world to our healing, Take care dear friend & message me back if you will     your friend Ronnie Gwyn in Hayes,  Va.

[Ronald Gwyn]

Heidi im so share your feelings & my partner was sick with heart disease for three years,i cant say how we all need to reach out to others,we cant & wont replace our soulmates but friends who share make life better for us little by little  as we are allowed to empty out our grief! Many prayers & thoughts for you & all  how are crushed by our losses,       your friend Ronnie Gwyn in Hayes, Va.  (sorry im not a good speller!)

[heidi bermender]

hi Ronald  ITS BEEN OVER 2 YEARS AND I CRY EACH DAY MY SWEET ANGEL HUSBAND WAS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE   WE SHARED THE SAME HEARTBEAT WE HELD HANDS EVERYDAY WE HAD A MAGICL LIFE TOGETHER

I FEEL SO VERY VERY LOST NOW

[Ted Scherff]

Hi Everyone,

I'm going to ask a question, respond if you like. Do you know the "meaning" of "stuck in grief?" I ask this with sincerity and concern for all of you. I didn't know until last week to technical terms of "stuck." I learned from GriefShare, the meaning and circumstances. It is worth understanding. 

Ted

[Ronald Gwyn]

Ted im not sure of what it means stuck in grief! Will you help me understand?   thanks so much  Ronnie Gwyn

[Ted Scherff]

Being "stuck" in grief, occurs a year or two or more, generally speaking, after the loss. It's when a breaving person is unable to move forward through a healing process. A person who is stuck, often gives up and is unable to "see" a future or see a path forward. Again, after some time following the loss. Sometimes the person won't let themselves heal because of feelings of guilt, or some unfinished business or issue. People who are stuck often drop-out of support groups, etc.  

[Ronald Gwyn]

Thanks Ted i understand & see how this can be,Do you think its wrong for a person to look for another partner after losing a loveone so they wont be lonely?   thanks again Ted     Ronnie

[Ted Scherff]

Ronnie, I do not think it is wrong. I ask myself, What would my late wife want for me?