Missing my Son-In-Law and 3 grandbabbies

[kelly dawn hartsock]

My name is Kelly. I have been married for 24 yrs to a wounderful man with a 32 yr old daughter .He hadnt seen her sice she was 3. 2yrs ago she found our son, her brother on facebook.It was great. Now she lives Maine and we live in Virginia.We were to relocate to Main to complete our family.She called Dad Dad and me mom.We hit it off great.Then on November 10, 2012 tragedy struck.Our daughters new home which they had only moved in 6 months earlier.On Friday night that November at 2:30 in the mornig Ben III woke to thick black heavy smoke. He got his wife out then went after our Grandchildren. We were called saturday morning to be told our daughter was in ICU after a fire broke out in her home.We were further told that our 3 grandbabbies and son-in-law died in the fire.My family and I are just devastated.dad was only 30 and our grandchildren were 4,8,9.We only had the chance to get to know them on the phone but they were all such beautiful loved ones and full of life.Because of distance and finances we were unable to attend services.Our Thanksgiving was a somber one then the Friday after the holiday would have ben big Bens 31 1st B-day and then just yesterday on December 4 th  little Ben would have be 10 yrs old.To add to all this my mother is in hospice and we were told today she has about 2 wks or less to live.I dont understand why .I am hurt ,sad, angry,lost,and confused .A gain I ask why. I try to take solace that they are in a better place but it isn't working.I want to blame the father ben III because he left cardboard boxes to close to the wood burning stove which was the cause of the fire.Can someone help I am desparately lost and very angry.What kind of God does such or is that not for me to question.

[Raven]

Hi Kelly, there are no words for me to give you that would make you feel better.   It only happened 3 weeks ago, and it is a terrible tragedy.  And I am so sorry about your mother.  My dad was in hospice too before he died 2 years ago, and it was devastating.  Life sure doesn't seem fair when our loved ones die.  I've read every book on grief over the last few months since my husband died at age 44.  Some days I feel better and other days not. One thing that made me feel better was to let myself cry and not trying to stuff it and act strong. I also sought help wherever I could.  My wish for you is that you get through the holidays as best as you can.  And keep your husband and daughter close to you.  I found that my family was so helpful. 

[maryellenmcquown]

wow words can't even express the hart break that i feel for what you are dealing with , i can say this and that is you will never for get but it will lesson i mean the pain but it will take a long time