2012 was a year of loss for me. The end of the year took my sister quickly. Unexpectedly. I'm sure most people can say that. I'll start with my first loss of the year. My son married, what I thought. A sweet young lady. She already had a 4 yr old and was pregnant with her second child. My husband & I tried so hard to talk him out of it. Sweet lady or not, but he was 22 & knew more than his fuddy duddy parents did. We were reluctant about accepting these children, but our hearts were won over by these precious little girls. Two years into the marriage, before the adoption was final, she wanted a divorce. Lost my grand babies. In April, my sister was diagnosed with vaginal cancer. She went through chemo, radiation and then a 9 hour surgery to remove her vaginal tissue, bladder, and, full hysterectomy. (BTW - my mother began loosing liver function due to cirrhosis of the liver). After the surgery, she was declared cancer free by her doctor. We were soooooo overjoyed! She survived and kicked cancers ***! The day after Halloween, my nephews father was found dead from a massive heart attack. Two weeks later, on a Sunday morning, my sweet, kind, loving best friend/sister called me early in the morning to tell me that she was shopping with her husband on Saturday and her femur broke in two places as she was getting in the car. X-rays showed.... Bone cancer. By Tuesday afternoon, she was in a coma, by Tuesday night.... She was gone. The most difficult part, we lived 2000 miles from each other. I had no money to fly out, my car would probably have gotten me there, but it would have taken a month. I couldn't be with her as she drew her last breath. I couldn't be there to tell her how much I loved her. Now, it's as though a huge part of my heart, body, & soul have been forcibly RIPPED from me. Then, on December 22nd, a dear friends 10 month old grandson passed away due to SIDS. Momma's health has declined rapidly since Robin's death. She will go into hospice on Friday. I have almost completely isolated myself from my other two sisters, my brother, my dad (he and mom have been divorced since I was 13), & most sadly, my mom. She lives with my sister. Carolyn has been Mom's 24-7 caregiver for 20 months. I was going three to five times a week. Staying the night on weekends. Now, I can't even answer their calls. I go to work everyday. Thank God everyday for my fantastic husband. That's about it. I tried the pills for depression, but couldn't even get out of bed to go to work, so those are now trash. I don't know where I am in this grieving process. I ache all the time. Sometimes, my chest gets so heavy, I can't draw a breath. I haveno insurance, live check to check, so therapy isn't an option. I don't know if I'm grieving or just numb. I don't know what to do. I've never lost 5 people in one year that I was sooo close to. What's wrong with me??!!!?!?? You'd think I'd want to spend every minute with mom, but when I try to go see her. I become so paralyzed. How do I get past this?