“So, what are you doing for self-care?” asked the therapist. Whoa, wait, what? I’m out here dodging the minefield that is grief work and she wants to know what I’m doing to take care of myself? What does that even mean? Am I sleeping? Am I eating right? Do I get any exercise? What am I doing to connect with other people? I know it was a question that came from a place of genuine concern and caring but it hit me like a bombshell. Another one.
This whole journey is like learning…Continue
When we are small, infants really, one of the major tasks we have to master is the concept of object permanence. This means that a baby has to learn that, just because something or someone is out of sight, doesn’t mean that it or they no longer exist. This is a major accomplishment towards the goal of establishing trust and security. I got to thinking about that recently. What does that mean and what can I learn from that?
No matter whether or not you believe in heaven or some…Continue
On January 19th I lost my best friend, my brother to a seizure in his sleep. I went to his house every weekend to play cards and get our kids together. I called at least 3 times a week. He was the only one who understood me. We always laughed so hard together and he always knew the right things to say. I miss him so much. I'm either sad or mad anymore. I cry all the time and I'm lost. I put my faith in God but I'm so emotional. I love him so much. Easter was horrible and everyday gets longer…Continue
Her hair on her brush, her toothbrush still on the counter, her weird gourmet sauces in the fridge, her bobbypins
in weird places, her last shopping list in my purse, fingerprints on car mirror, items I pass in the grocery store that I always got for her, things I want to show her, tell her, her footprints I think I hear, the tablets full of her poetry; the
exquisite/sad/tortured poetry, the friends expressing their sorrow that I resent because they had long abandoned her, the…Continue
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My amazing and loving husband had a brain aneurysm last Saturday and died on Sunday. We have 4 kids and I feel like no one understands. He was only 32. When I think about the fact that I will never…Continue
Hi everyone,Sadly my family lost my father last year to suicide after a pretty quiet fight against depression.I am looking for others to talk to in the same situation but more looking to connect with…Continue
3 1/2 months without Thomas now and I still feel him urging me-giving me direction. Tonight I was driving home past a local restaurant and felt the urge to stop for a bite-I resisted and drove past,…Continue