help

[bobbie]

I lost my sister in oct 2012 i am trying to figure out why i can't move on .I don't know if its because I talked to her 3 hours before she died on the phone or because of the shock or because she was my rock in dealing with my husband cancer.I lost my father 2 monthsafter her and I think i am over him.Any ideas

[Laurene Johnson]

The amount of time it takes to deal with grief depends on your relationship with that person. If she was your support person then the loss is greater, the person who would have helped you is gone.there is no time frame for "moving on". And what is moving on to you, does it mean you can't cope on any level of your life, do you hold on thinking that moving on you give her up forever. My sister has been gone for 39 years and I think of her often, sad on the anniversary, sad on her birthday etc, but have I moved on I guess that depends on your definition of moving on. My husband died in 2011, and no I have not moved on, I cry daily, but I get up everyday, I go to work, I am functioning. Happiness has not returned, but I know grief is on my time, and it may take me a very long time and I am ok with that. As long as your grief is not affecting your daily life, then give it more time, it has not even been a year yet. I find this web site helped me a lot. I pray you will find peace in due time.

[Hillary b]

Talk to the deceased every day through your higher power. Ask for strength