Lost My Husband of 13 years.

[Dee Snyder]

I guess right now I'm going through a lot of anger issues, but it's all under control.  You really think you know somebody, trust them and then you find out one day after the funeral that somebody texts his phone and it's an intimate friend.  It just wasn't one, but five intimate friends that I found on his phone.  It's amazing how somebody in the last four months can find the time to do it, well evidently their was time when I was working weekends.

It all started after his mom died in the fall.  I guess he hid his grief badly for we had a bad year... I lost my father, he lost his mom.  Evidently he just couldn't handle the grief but wouldn't talk about it.   So, evidently having sex with four women and a man made him feel good.  He also had ED because being overweight,  had a heart stent, and at one time had a TIA from taking Cialus.  When I was in the hospital now I understood why he wasn't taking his medicine,  blood thinner, high blood pressure medicine, and baby aspirin.  Because he wanted to get it up.  He always made sure I took my high blood pressure medicine, and I asked him why isn't he taking his, and he would tell me he would take his at work.  Well that didn't happen.  What he died from Severe Asthma attack.    So, if I didn't look at the phone and his e-mail account and messenger, he would have been a saint.

I've just been going over the best years of our lives and just ignoring the last few months.  It still makes me angry, but I'm getting over him easier because of this situation.

[Judy Davidson]

THank you for sharing your story, Dee.  I'm so sorry for your loss, hurt and confusion which just complicates the grief process.  I do know from firsthand experience that communication is key to recovery.  So you did a great thing in getting a lot of that off your mind, heart and soul.  I hope this site, the chat room and blogs on the main page are helpful to you.

SIncerely,

Judy Davidson

Founding member