Maybe an odd question.

[Lynn]

So I've been told that I've never really learned how to grieve, how to "get past" losing the people I've lost in my life. I've kind of shrugged it off until recently and started to think about it.

So, now I'm curious, How does one start this grieving process? Is there a right way and a wrong way?

is there really a specific time frame on how long it takes to grieve? Am I wrong if it takes longer than some people might think? I dunno.

I know talking about things can be a big help. As I mentioned in my introduction post, I've never been one for really "talking" about myself and how I feel. I know I have replied to a couple posts and shared my thoughts on here, I guess that's a place to start. Being new to this whole sharing and the nature of this forum, I'm just taking things slowly and depending how I feel.

I figure I have to start somewhere...

[Judy Davidson]

Hi Lynn,

You're correct to take things slow depending on how you feel.  There is no right or wrong way or even a time frame.  Sometimes it's one step forward and 2 steps back.  There are stages of grief that most people go through and book recommendations on this site.  But I found that communication is key along with time as long as you're doing something toward healing.  It sounds like you're doing a good job in listening to your gut - your heart and soul will tell you what you should do next ... keep up the good work!

Judy     

[Lynn]

Is it normal to grieve or to go through the depression, process of loss and all these emotions for long periods of time, like months or even years?

Judy Davidson said:

Hi Lynn,

You're correct to take things slow depending on how you feel.  There is no right or wrong way or even a time frame.  Sometimes it's one step forward and 2 steps back.  There are stages of grief that most people go through and book recommendations on this site.  But I found that communication is key along with time as long as you're doing something toward healing.  It sounds like you're doing a good job in listening to your gut - your heart and soul will tell you what you should do next ... keep up the good work!

Judy     

[Linda McLaughlin]

Hi Lynn

There is no right or wrong way to grieve and there is no time limit.  Everyone is different.  It helps to talk to others that have lost a loved one.  I'm new to this also but if you need a friend, I'm here.

Sincerely,

Linda

[Carrie]

That is not an odd question because i ask myself that all tbe time. I lost my husband on June 15'2014 .i am still having a hard time.

[Lynn]

Carrie,

Sorry for your loss. I guess anyone that you lose that you created and hold a strong bond with can have lingering hurt and confusion. I'm beginning to feel as though there is no specific time frame for healing. Since I've posted this question, I've stopped wondering about it and just let things be as is. I've gone back to deciding that taking one day at a time is the best thing to do right now.

Carrie said:

That is not an odd question because i ask myself that all tbe time. I lost my husband on June 15'2014 .i am still having a hard time.

[Carrie]

I am doing that and at times it is. Hard to do


Lynn said:

Carrie,

Sorry for your loss. I guess anyone that you lose that you created and hold a strong bond with can have lingering hurt and confusion. I'm beginning to feel as though there is no specific time frame for healing. Since I've posted this question, I've stopped wondering about it and just let things be as is. I've gone back to deciding that taking one day at a time is the best thing to do right now.

Carrie said:

That is not an odd question because i ask myself that all tbe time. I lost my husband on June 15'2014 .i am still having a hard time.