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He was only 33!

I am new to this site. I am in search of others whom have gone through things as I have and are able to give support and insite.

When I was 14 I watched as my dad took his last breath and my mother was doing CPR. I watched as EMS placed a blanket over his face in our kitchen. Life after this was difficult and I have struggled with depression since.

I got married to my best friend and love of my life when I was just 21. He was such a great man and at this point neither of us wanted children, but guess what, 1 year after the honeymoon here comes Connor, then 2 years later Hailey joined us. They are now 8 and 6. My husband colapsed at work at the age of 33, he was worked on by EMS and Dr's in the ER for 1.5 hours total. He was then pronounced dead. This was one of my worst fears and my mind was racing.

Here I am 2 weeks later to the day, still feeling as if it is all a lie. As if this did not really happen, he is not really gone. The kids are asking a million questions that I am unable to answer and all the logistics that need to be worked out after your spouse dies and you have kids, OMWORD!!!!! I am feeling alone, scared, sad, frustrated, cheated, and frankly why does this have to happen to me twice with the 2 men that mean the most to me. Not to mention watching my mom cry cause she never wanted this for me either since she went through it. I also have no job and babies to support. Lots of questions, no answers, so again SCARED! Lost!

I just wish there was an easy button for the grief I feel along with all the "adult" things I have to figure out. I just know I cant give up for the kids, just figuring out how to push on cause right now I am on auto pilot feeling NOTHING.

Feeling all emotions,

Kate

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Permalink Reply by Donna Gonzalez on October 25, 2016 at 12:37pm

Dear Katelyn ,

I am so sorry to hear that your husband passed.This is one of the most heartbreaking things to happen to anyone. I understand this is one of the hardest things to cope with. All the mixed emotions are normal. I know this post is from a couple weeks ago however, I hope you see this message. I wish to share some good news from God with you. Our loving creator Jehovah God gives us the promise of seeing our loved ones again in the near future. This means you can see your husband again; yes hold him again and be together for eternal life.This is not false comfort nor a fantasy, this is reality.

This message from Jehovah is found in Revelation or Apocalypse 21:4 " And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes,and death will be no more,neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore.The former things have passed." This event is to take place very soon. With the help of his son Jesus Crist, he will resurrect all of the righteous people such as your husband to walk the face of the earth forever.

Imagine that! This is no fantasy. Nor a false comfort. This is real. This event is taking place sooner than later. If you wish to see more information on this topic, please dont hesitate to contact me via this chat or email. You can also do your own research on our website www.jw.org, or directly see this URL that explains everything I have mentioned above. https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/what-is-the-resurre...

Hope you are doing well and to hear back from you soon Katelyn and I will pray that you will have the strength and ability to answer your childrens questions at your own pace