Long term grief

[Russ Smith]

     I lost my wife in September of 2013. For 13 months I had a Hospice grief counselor visit me once a month. Since 1 week after her passing I have been going to group grief counseling, at first 2 times a month, tapering off to once a month. When the holidays roll around I tend to go more often. Now that the holidays are over I seem to have fallen into a pit which I cannot seem to get out of. For the most part my blinds stay closed and there is no ambition to do anything.

     My house is for sale because I can no longer live here without her. Something I probably should have done sooner, but I decided to give myself a year. Then when the year came and went I had to deal with some family issues.

     All of the friends we had have fallen away and there is no family nearby. For a while I used to share my feelings on social media. There was all kinds of friendly advice, which eventually turned into "you need to deal with it" or just plain "get over it". Consequently, I share less and less on social media.

Sign me, 

In the dark 

[Lulu]

Hi Russ sometimes i wonder what we could tell each that would really make a difference or at least heal the pain for a while. Its been a little more than two years I also lost Jeff in 2013 in December it was a painful journey that eventually felt sorry for me and left me to dry, kinda  like when a wave tosses you around then feels sorry for you and spits you to shore. You're left relief but confussed and still longing for your loved one. I could tell you this you must push harder no matter how tough it is you must push yourself no one else will do it, ever once else  look at us like aliens as if we enjoy dweling in self pity.  Your still here and maybe day by day you could pull up the blinds a bit each day. No one else could help you but you. Find your ambition and try to live if you look around the world is not so bad.