Lost my dad almost a month ago

[Nicky]

I miss my dad so much and I find myself questioning God and asking why and I kno I shouldn't...I just want a peace of mind and know my dad is in a better place but I can't find a answer and it hurts so bad

[Laurene Johnson]

Many times I questioned God, why would a God of love take my loved one away leaving me so sad. I have no answer for you. But I can tell you it is normal. And you have a right to your feelings. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It will get easier and you will soul search for your answers. Remember many will try to say things that comfort,and others just hurt, the second blow of a loss is the way people treat you and the things they say. Forgive them for they know not what they do.

[Rachel Peterson]

Grief happens in stages.. anger is a valid feeling. You have a right to feel this way. Feel how you want as long as you are coping with these feelings in healthy ways. Unfortunately there is not magic reason why... its okay to ask why when it hurts so much you cant breathe. I am told it gets easier. Hold tight Nicky. Remember your Dad and the good times you had together and surround yourslef my people who love you. My thoughts are with you.

[Debbie Wright]

Nicky, I am so sorry for you loss. When we lose our loved ones it changes our lives forever. I read you post on questioning God and wanted to respond. I also pray and tell God I do not understand, why etc. I even told God I needed my Grandson more than heaven. I had no understanding of this.  I decided to pick up my bible and read till i found the answer. I am now half way through and know one thing for sure.  My grandson is happier than he could ever be on earth and I have true faith that I will see him again... God is in control and please know that you are not alone in your grief. Not only do you have all of us to talk to but you have all of us to pray for you but more importantly you have God holding your hand comforting you, walking next to your side. This is the comfort I found. I look to heaven and ask Jesus to give my grandson a hug I miss him and you know I beleive that he gets that hug I send .God understands our grief and pain... Don't worry its not the first time someone grieving has questioned God. We all do because we love that person so much..I know many times people tell you it will get better with time.. Well it does.. We still miss our loved ones and cry and the emptiness in our heart especially around holidays and birthdays it still there but we do with time learn to cope with our loss. I found that i got angry, i cried alot and was sort of rude to people even cut myself off from people. Everyone grieves differently but know that the anger, tears there all ok.. and don't let anyone tell you its been to long you should be better because there is no time period for grief. Its a lifetime.we just cope. Never a day goes by still that I don't cry for my grandson. Please know that I am praying for you, that God will give you comfort in your time or grief. Please take care and if you ever need to talk I am here.       God Bless you.

Deb

[James scott]

I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 8 years ago and still seems like yesterday. I think about him everyday. One thing that I have done that may sound weird but seems to help me a little bit is I talk to him...I talk to him a lot. My dad got cancer and lost his battle within a matter of months. I had to be the one to tell him it's ok to die. Try talking to him, like I said it helps me a lot I probably talk to him at least once a day. He has also visited me in my dreams. Good luck to you and God Bless.