Telling my siblings and others about my sons passing

[Morgan]

I haven't been able to tell my siblings about the sudden passing of my thirty year old son.  He passed on about 4 1/2 months ago and when ever I think of telling my family I start to sob.  My son didn't have any children, so I don't have any grand babies.  My siblings have many healthy grandchildren which makes me envious.  Seeing them hurts and reminds me of what I could of had.  Has anyone else had this problem? 

[Zyn]

My son passed about the same time. I told my siblings. They immediately asked my husband and I to come and stay with them for a while. At first it sounded like a great idea. Just getting away. But when I got there and saw their children I couldn't handle it. My husband tried to help me but I too think I'll never walk my son down the isle, I'll never have any grand children as our son was the only child we were able to have. I cannot tell you what to do. I can only give you advise. Tell your siblings but if you still have problems being around your siblings children I would not go see them. Or if they ask to come express your feelings. After I told my siblings how I felt about the children they gave me the respect to let me be around the adults instead of the children. I hope this helps. I am sorry for your loss.

[Morgan]

Thanks Zyn for your reply.  I have been thinking about what/how I will handle letting my siblings know about my sons passing on now that I'm not as crazy with grief and anxiety.  I'm not close to my siblings and feel as if they have not earned the right to comfort me (that's how I feel right now).  I also feel as if I need to make new friends, people who have the same hole in their heart that I now have.  People who won't look at me with pity or wonder why I'm still crying or how could I be laughing. Sorry for your loss as well. 

[Zyn]

I totally understand what you are feeling. I am here if you need to talk anytime. I too still feel lots of grief and I am dealing with things little by little each day. Talking with people who have gone through the same thing we have has helped me tremendously. I know it's hard to not pay attention to people who look at us with pity but in my head I personally say I got 17 and half years with my wonderful son. They will never understand what we are going through and I pray that they never do. Just know you have someone on here that you can talk to whenever you need. I hope I do too.

[Morgan]

Zyn, I sent a friend request to you that way we can chat.  Being new to the site I am still trying to figure out how it works.   

[Angela]

I understand I lost my son 11 years ago he was 2 and I love with it everyday

[Angela]

I meant live with it