I'm and may not do this the right way

[darlene turnipseed]

I lost my daughter Jerri when she was 29 in a head on with an 18 wheeler. This was August 9, 1998. I know it has been awhile but you never really get over losing your child.  Her sister was 18 at  the time and suffered chronic migraines. To make a long story short, my grief for Jerri was kind of put on hold because her father and I were  weren't really thinking about Jennifer as we should  have and she turned to someone who was not really a very good person and brainwashed her, abused her stalked her, etc.  She had several relationships with the same type of guys.  She now suffers from ptsd, depression, and suicidal ideation. Despite it all she managed to get  two BA's in Art and sociology  but has not been able to use them due to her problems. She has lost all her self confidence and still lives with us at 34.

She is a very smart, talented, gifted, funny girl, but doesn't believe in her abilities due to being put down  by these losers guys. She is always telling me that the wrong daughter died and that breaks my heart. I don't know how to help her. After her sister died her friends seemed to desert her. I am the only one she has to talk to. I tried to get her therapy but she seems to be smarter than they are and don't offer any help. She tried suicide once by hanging and demolished two cars which should have been fatal. I love her so much, but I don't know what to do. She does not work due to her issues and has no insurance.  Her dad an I are now on SS. I just need someone to give me advice. I do not want this going on face book because I don't want anyone to know

[Judy Davidson]

Hi Darlene,

Thank you for sharing your story about Jerri and Jennifer.  I'm so sorry for your loss and the difficult time it has been since then.  I know from my own personal experience that communication is key to recovery.  Feel free to post or join the chat room.  I hope the blog posts on the main page are helpful along with book recommendations.  Seeing someone in your local community is helpful.  www.GriefShare.org can help connect you.  I hope you find some help here.

God bless,

Judy Davidson

Founding member 

[Lulu]

I think she needs to go out and find a new circle of friends and hopefully she could meet a true man that cares for her and that will lift her spirits. A change in past in the friendships and men she is running into. If she is willing to try social dances  or events she might find quality not quantity. If she is willing to find groups that participate in hiking, biking something that might attract her interest she will slowly start to feel better about herself. She needs to feel that not everyone in this world is out to treat her badly.

Best of luck, many prayers for you.

Lulu