physical communication

[melodie gill]

I am wondering if anyone out there feels they have seen or heard from their loved one besides me?  I was shocked to see it in a Catholic Hospice Bereavement Newsletter that physical communication such as flashing lights or sounds, smells are fairly common and recognized by them as fact. I have had my pager turned on, not once, but twice, his alarm clock from work sound without being set, the paper shredder take off on it's own, flashes of light in the dark (and yesterday in the day) where there is no light source and 2 ?Dreams-talking together about helping me deal with this overwhelming grief in such a real conversation!  I feel him at home, not elsewhere.  I love him so much and I talk to him every day.  But now I feel he hears me without spoken word, but I like spoken words as well as writing to him, texting him (sometimes photos) and I can't bring myself to turn off his cell phone.  I just doubt I'm the only one-so why not ask? 

[Judy Davidson]

Hi Melodie,

Thank you for sharing your experiences in communication from your husband.  I also have had experiences similar to yours - my husband used to appear often in my dreams and they seemed so real.  My father also died when I was young and he appeared at the foot of my bed; wasking me in the middle of the night - this was years later when I was going through a difficult period.

Communication is key to grief recovery so I think it's OK to talk or text him.  I used to write in my journal almost everyday to my husband, telling him about my day.  Whatever helps you cope through your grief is OK.

I pray this site provides you Help for Today & Hope for Tomorrow.

God bless,

Judy

Founding member 

[heidi bermender]

yes I too had the sme epxerecining when my husband the love of my life my soulmate passed  days after he passed the door to oiur room moved and stopped and moved and stopped  the tv many times I had it off and came down and it was on and no a different chanal also I smell roses around our bed last week we have a shihnh Tzu  and he starred up at the ceiling and ran back and forth as if chasing something in the ceiling he went back and forth the entire time his head was stariing at the ceiling he has starred up over my head and his little tongue was kissing something over my head and he then stareed at the bedroom his head went back and forth as if someone was walking around the bedroom I know he saw my sweet angel husband  then the shih Tzu starred at the cahir in bedroom as if he sees my sweet angel husband sitting in the chair  he sits in the middle oif the hallway and stars at someone walking back and forth then his head goes up to the ceiling the entire time my shih tzuy ears wiggle I knoe in my heart he sees my sweet angel husband  I have dreamed of him many times very real  and   my shih tzxu is still straiing up at ceiling or chair  mnay times he will kiss something as he stars up at the ceiling yes I believe its still happening even after 2 years since my sweet angel died  when my  shih Tzu kisses me  he will stop and stiar at the chair  and then will contuse to lick my face and agin stop and stair at the chair  then last summer  I had the agarage dootr opened and a buttfly deep purple my fav coler came in the garage and ciciled me around my whole body wnet around me and then sat by my foot. I know my angel husband is always around me we shared the same heartbeat he was my love of my life my world myt soulmate

[heidi bermender]

also the smell of roses was in my bedroom alst week around the entire bed was the smell of roses roses are my fav flower  I have smellred roses amny time and I also had a feeling oflectric going thorugh my hands  we held hands all the time I also felt ectric feeling going up and down my back he always massaged my back I felt a ectric feeling in my fac as if he was trying to kisss me and then I flet a feather like aorind my face and mouth yes I know he is always near me  we were magical together  as I said he was the love of my life

[dreammoon jo]

yes in dreams or items dispearthn end up in a difrnt plse we put it lk pens glases casesss or footos fall of wall but do not smash  but footos is still ok or tobaco smke or radio jumpps stasionss 

oe tv jumpi s 2 a difrnt tv prog 

[heidi bermender]

HI MELODIE I TOO LOST THE LOVE OF MY LIFE MY WORLD MY SOULMATE MY BESTFRINED HUSBAND HE WAS MY WORLD  HE PASSED AWAY IN MY ARMS IN OUR BED FORM ESOHAGAS CANCER I LAYED IN BED WITH HIM HUGGING HIM AND TELLING HIM THANK YOUY FOR EVERYTHING YOU DIDI FOR ME  WE SAHRED THE SAME HEARTBEAT WE WERE MAGICAL TOGEHER WE HELD HAND EVERYDAY HE WORTE ME POETRY AND 300 CARDS ITS BEEN OVER 2 YEARS AND EVERYDAY MY TEARS FLOW AND I MISS HIM DEEPLY  BUT HIS PRESENCE SI ALWASY WITH ME AND I KNOW HE IS NEAR  ME MY LITTLS SHIH TZU IS ALWASY STARRING IN THE CEILING OR STARIING AT THE CHAIR  THE OTHER DAY MY DOG RAN BACK AND FORTH STARRING UP AT THE CEILING AS IF CHASING SOMETHING IN THE CEILING AND I SMELLED ROSES AROUND THE BED  A WEEK BEFORE VALENTINES DAY  THIESES OCCENCES HAVE BEEN HAPPENING SINCE HE PASSED AWAY OVER TWO YEARS NOW   EVERYGDAY IN OUR LIFE WE MADE SPCEIL EVERYDAY WAS OUR ANNOVERSARY EVERYDAY WAS VALENTINES DAY  WE WERE MRRIED 35 YEARS

[dreammoon jo]

well bst thg so far ths wk had a dream of my dad it wz grt he had grt color no mre bean gray or ill 

it wz on a housee boat it wz grt sky blu sea so on it fealt so real i did u cud say it mde up for shit wk iv had 

my dad lket grt no mnre ot of breth or struhlng 2 get his beth nw its 

[dreammoon jo]

iv had my dad a lot evn my cuzen steven bfre my dad biut not in a dream im a bit weid u cud say iv had my cuzne speak 2 me evn my nanna my da sort of had gift 2 on off as well so did my muns mum 2 i met a grandad i not met i told my mum but my ucle i told him wnt a funy colr evn my anti it died bfre she died i told she wnt a funy color 2 coz i described him spot on i no i saw fottos of him but color hite wz crepy way i saed it 

iv even bean mukin abot wth a ouji bord onln i no v bean told i shud be carfil coz i cud upset bad sprits i no all i i did wz ask wz it dad nanna k or cuzen steve o or so on if i post evry i lots on hear it wud sond lk a hit lits 2 me its a loss lits i mnt list