Lost my heart...the love of my life...my husband!

[Stacey Bosworth]

I lost my husband in February of 2014 unexpectedly and we still don't why. The pain is so deep and profound! I don't know how to live without him. I hope to find some comfort here with people who can understand sadly what I am experiencing. I am sorry for all of your loss'.

[Chris Fayne]

I think you will find lots of comfort here Stacey. I know what you are going through. I lost my fiance on February 28. We had been together for 6 years. She to died very suddenly without warning and without a clear explanation as to why. I am going to tell you this and it's what keeps me going. I am still just as much in love with my fiance as I was when she died. Just because he is gone doesn't mean you have to stop loving him. I tell my Christina constantly that I love her. Her and her girls were the center of my life, and without her, I don't have them anymore either. Each person grieves differently. I will have a couple of good days, then I will completely break down. I will be at work and just start crying, for no reason. I don't hide my grief for her as I did not hide my love for her. Don't hide it. You will have people tell you to move on or it happens for a reason, the 2 most absolute worst things anyone can say. And it's sad to say, during a time like this, you will find out who your real and true friends are. Try to surround yourself with as much positive as you can. Memorialize him in any way that you can. Let him live on through you. I have done many things to help make my fiance's memory live on. No it's not the same as having her here, but it does help. I will share with you what I have done, all you have to do is ask. Keep living your life as you would if he was still here. Talk to him. Tell him you love him and miss him. Cry if you feel the need to cry. Be angry. Be mad. Whatever you do don't hold it in. We have a great group here. They have already helped me in a HUGE way. We are all here to help and I promise you that you will not find any judgement here.

[Stacey Bosworth]

Thank you for writing Chris. I lost my husband suddenly on the 27th. I would and will never stop loving him. I live for him and only him. I breakdown constantly and every time I talk about him. Tears are generally rolling. I am sorry for your loss of Christina. I would love to hear of some of the ways you make her memory live on.

[Chris Fayne]

If you look at my pics you will see I had a memorial plaque made. It is really nice and only costs $59. I also have cross necklace I wear with her name on it with a dog tag with a saying on it that Says Christina My Angel In Heaven 05-06-1985  02-28-2014. I also created a living memorial for her on facebook and I post something almost daily about her, even talk to her on there.

[Lulu]

Hi Stacey! unanswered question make it hard on the heart. I also lost a wonderful man. And i understand your pain. If you need to talk we are here to listen. You could reach me through inbox on my page or on chat. Im usually her after 5:00 p.m. western time.  I could honestly say its not a easy road ahead. But there is hope. 

[Tina Bambi]

Hey Stacey.. Don't really know what to say as I've found no matter what anyone says, still nothing seems to make it better. See, I lost my husband 4 years ago and still to this day I find it difficult to cope. You will get through the days, day by day. God won't put you to it if he can't get you through it right?! I'm going to keep this short as I'm in tears writing you this but if you want to talk don't hesitate to contact me and that goes to all the above too.. I am so sorry for your loss. 

[Maria D]

Stacey. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband on April 22. I joined this in hopes we could all support one another. Nothing is easy everything is a struggle.

[Stacey Bosworth]

Hi Tina and Maria! I have been trying to take each day by day and hiding my tears for everyone else's benefit but is not helping. Tina I had hopes time would make life easier but as I can see it doesn't. So sorry for your loss. Maria, sorry for your loss...it is a struggle and it honestly gets harder, that's where I am sitting. Please reach out if you need to talk, both of you, I always need to!

[Maria D]

I did some gardening today. I'd like to plant a tree for my husband and find a spot in the garden to get a stone with his name on it. Now I'm lying in bed staring at his picture. I try so hard to move forward and stay busy but it's so very hard. I'm sure you feel the same way. I joined a bereavement group it doesn't start till June 4th. I'm hoping meeting with other people will help.

[Tina Bambi]

Stacey, hope your feeling a bit better today. No one can tell you how to be, if you want to cry then let it out, you'll realise although the pain wont go away, you'll feel a tad bit better. You have to take each day at a time, although you may feel like you don't want to you have to. Your still here and life still goes on. As time goes on Stacey/Maria, what I've found is you'll find a way to get by. 4 years down the line and I either have bad days or alright days. They're never perfect but I guess they'll never be. This is so random but I don't know how much you believe in spititualists and clairvoyants. I get through each day knowing I still have a connection to my husband and that is through a clairvoyant. I go to one on a regular basis and that's for my own piece of mind. I guess when a loved one passes the only connection you have to them is through a person like that. I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it but it has helped me loads! 

[Ken Harris]

Hi Stacey - I understand your pain. I am so sorry for your loss. My wife died last week, and I too want to talk with people who understand. I have the support of many friends and family, but try as they may they just don't understand. They are going on with their lives, and I wish I could lay down and not wake up. Perhaps you feel the same way. Again, I am so sorry for your loss and the never-ending pain.

[Tina Bambi]

Hi Ken. I'm so sorry for your loss.. Unfortunately time doesn't stop for no one but you will find the strength to keep going, day by day. No one can or will understand what you are going through if they haven't been through it themselves.There will be times where you want to give up, there are days for me still and it's been over 4 years. Ken, just don't get in a rut where you cant see a way out because it's not a good place to be. Message me whenever you want to talk and that goes for anyone else. Big hugs x

[Ken Harris]

Thanks Tina - I am sorry for your loss, and thanks for writing me. I think your advice about avoiding a rut is good advice. Right now I can't seem to do much of anything, but hopefully I will find more energy and hope in the days to come. I trust God to provide me strength, although right now I certainly don't have any. How did you lose your husband?

Tina Bambi said:

Hi Ken. I'm so sorry for your loss.. Unfortunately time doesn't stop for no one but you will find the strength to keep going, day by day. No one can or will understand what you are going through if they haven't been through it themselves.There will be times where you want to give up, there are days for me still and it's been over 4 years. Ken, just don't get in a rut where you cant see a way out because it's not a good place to be. Message me whenever you want to talk and that goes for anyone else. Big hugs x